I'm glad that you realize you aren't a peice of *****. I think that he has major issues he needs to work on. I also think your right in telling him to get out! You're right you can't change him and it seems obvious he doesn't want to change. You've learned stuff from being with him to remember in your next relationship.

You maybe feeling awful b/c he's made you feel so guilty and wont let it drop. I would feel bad if my husband kept bringing it up and trying to make me feel guilty about NOTHING.

You deserve so much better. I wish you the best of luck. Please keep us posted.