Argh!

Hard to say what to do. If you call Tony, then your daughter might catch it from him for narcing.

I say to wait until the weekend, and then email him something along the lines of how it's really important that she have a calm environment during the week, and that "family meetings" to discuss arguments etc need to wait until the weekend when she doesn't have school the next morning. It's only fair.

I really can't believe he has the nerve to give YOU a hard time when stuff like this happens at his house.