i feel so badly! my significant other of 16 years had a 6 month affair that ended with his gf calling me & telling me specific & explicit details of their relationship. i kicked him out (2 whole days!!!) then he came home because our son was missing him (as was i) and since then he appears to be a completely different person! he's very attentive, sensitive, and thoughtful. he does things for me he hadn't done previously. i love him madly but i just cannot bring myself to trust him nor let my guard down. my weight has skyrocketed by 50lbs. i have constant visions of him with this unattractive woman ho said to me "maybe he can spend more time taking care of you & your children and spend less time loving ME since i'm letting him go!" i can never seem to forget the cold words she said to me- there were so many!! i didn't understand her hostility towards me, i was the victim!! why can't i forgive him nor forget HER?? i need help because no matter how good he is to me NOW i cannot get what he did THEN! the biggest part of the problem is that it's been over a YEAR & he's been (as far as i know) a perfect angel!! :confused,::mad,: