I have talked more about this to him tonight. It seems to me that he just feels like he has so many responsibilities and that everything in life is a huge burden to him. I think he even feels like our relationship is just another responsibility for him. Like, he feels like he has to do so much because people need him to, expect him to, and that he just cannot hardly deal with it all. I told him i wasn't minimizing his feelings and being overwhelmed and so stressed out by everything. But rather, that somewhere, there is a problem that is causing him to feel much more stressed out about everything than he should, which is causing him to not want sex. So while I don't think he can just get over this over night, I really feel like he needs to figure out what is causing all this, and at least try to make it better. But, when I explain it to him like that, I still see that he is interpreting it as just another responsibility that I want him to have. "I have to take care of my mom, do my homework, and work full time, and now my girlfriend wants me to fix this problem" is what is going through his head. I tried to say there are other ways of viewing things you need to do. Like, instead of just doing your job because your boss expects you to, making it your choice, like you choose to go to work for the paycheck so that you have the ability to buy things you need in life. And after talking to him about that, I asked if that made any difference, and he said no. I feel like I am doing all these things (going to therapy, using coping skills, eating better, exercising more) to better myself, yet when it comes to him, he has all these excuses NOT to do those things, like work and school. Well, there are other people in this world with even MORE responsibility than he has, who have more intimacy with their partners than he has with me. So it is not all just about his responsibilities. It is about how he handles them. That is why I think he would benefit from going back to therapy ( he used to go, but kinda quit going cause his job). I asked him now that tax season is over, and his work has gotten less demanding, if it would be ok if he took a half day off once every 2 weeks for therapy, and he said that would not be a problem. So I asked him if he would call and make an appointment with a therapist monday, and he said he would only think about it, not promise anything. Why does he make it such a big deal that I better myself, when he won't do it himself? I am getting frustrated.