I offer you my perspective. Sometimes men will tell a woman stuff in an effort to control the course of the relationship. A man might indicate in several ways how the woman is not so very important to him, but he'll keep her dangling, because he does enjoy her company, but he isn't ready or willing or able to commit. I think some men are just a little clueless, some are more into flirting and the chase than a steady relationship, and some are just devious users. What is important for you is this: what do you want? If you want a man who wants only one woman, who wants to commit, who is and will be honest and forthright about his affection, don't settle for something else. I have no doubt that as a beautiful woman you will find plenty of men attracted to you; but you have already found out that attraction doesn't equal commitment. If you like talking to this man, there is nothing wrong with that. But if you want a committed relationship, you won't want to waste too much time with players. All of what I said is basically true of women too; I don't want to be sexist; so that if a man wants a woman who will commit to him, he won't chase after women who want to play the field.