There is a chance Im completely off base here. but. I think you should forget about his sorry *** and take care of yourself. Do stuff to make yourself fell good. He has you right where he wants you. If you seem less interested he will chase you more. SAd thatyou have to play those games but it is the way it is. Take walks. Buy a exercise bike. make a new friend. join a club. do stuff for yourself. you deserve it. I know you have kids and you still love him (do you?) but you dont have to go down on his sinking ship. You can try to help him without taking yourself down too. Just start with little things that will make you feel good. little things. a lip gloss. a movie. And just yhow old is he? Who does he think he's gonna get? My guess is he's not all that...