((((((( HUGS )))))))

Sorry to hear the pain and hurt in your words for I know them all to well, from a 20 year marriage that is still the same way.... but what I hate more than this is the knowledge that we females will consider killing our self over a MAN and usually not that good of a man or human being to start with in the first place. Soooooo SAD....

When I read over your words part of me says RUN FOR YOUR LIFE while the other part of me says - IF you love him stay and work it out, for he is just scared and probably afraid to commit (like many men are).
From my personal experience of living with a commitmentphobia - my marriage does better when I do not ask for much or need to much - then he feels safe enough to approach me. Now while I have to admit that this is no way for a relationship to survive - one must learn to accept the way of a commitmentphobia if they are to remain with one.... the reality is that they will with drawl as soon as they allow themselves to get close enough to feel, but then again they will return when they need or you pull away from them and the love.

Guess you have to decide what you can honestly live with and without.... I cannot live without him after 20 years - therefore - I accept to the point of still being able to love.

Hope this helps a little....

LoVe,
Rhapsody