Personal opinion.....as long as you are having the casual sex....you are not focusing on healing yourself...you are just covering up your hurt. Many people cover up their hurt with alcohol & drugs...others cover it up with excessive sex which can turn into an addiction of it's own.

I don't believe that one can truly heal when they do not focus on the hurt & healing rather than trying to cover it up.

I was married for 33 years.....had NOTHING to do with my husband for the last 10 years of the marriage......after I left (we are still only separated because of financial issues), I still had absolutely NO relationships with anyone else. I have wonderful friends now that I can communicate with......have NO desire to have sex with anyone.....as I needed to figure out who I am not based on anyone other than ME.

Have never been happier in my life than being ALONE now....I would never be in a relationship with anyone ever in the future.