thank you eskielover,
i'm sorry you had a sad experience too. i would say to those pastors who don't understand about MI, all we need to hear is a simple prayer, or a hand to hold, some kind words of support, or just simply being told that God loves us.

and no, my faith won't ever be compromised by people like my late client. actually it helped me to grow. i was never angry with any of them. they were the ones that had to live with that kind of hate and prejudice in their hearts, and so it was easy to pray for them because they needed the prayers more than me. that type of "brokenness" of spirit needs to be prayed for so they can somehow know God's will for them to learn compassion for others. and i'm learning too and have a very long way to go.

anyway, bless you. please stay well.