I have really bad social phobia, I think. I've been in similar situations as hearing the voicemails from people wanting to go out and I ignore them or make some lame excuse for why I can't go. I didn't realize until recently that I'm pretty abnormal about it. Sometimes if a guy I know is texting me a lot and hitting on me, I will flat out say, "you don't want to waste your time with me, I'm disgusting." I'm completely weirded out by most social situations. I hate it.