Just an observation, Greenleaves...
I tend to pick on word choice, but I think often it's terribly significant.
Hoping you stop is a start. But until you say "I will stop, there's no chance of that happening. Nothing magical is going to happen to make you stop doing it until you decide you want to, you know how to, and you actually stop, and you monitor your progress on stopping and tweak your plan as needed to maintain the change.
I recently found myself saying, "I will be done with my education by XX date." versus "I better be or should be or hope to be." It felt much more in my control once I started saying, "I will. "
So....
1. Is the behavior a problem?
2. Do you want to change it?
3. Have you decided to change it?
4. Do you know how to change it?
5. When will you start to change it?
6. How will you know when you've changed?
7. How will you deal with any slips?
Okay, more than an observation...
Color me wordy.
Hope it helps, though.
gg
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