The other important thing in a relationship is NOT to CONTROL the other person. When you start to control & try to force someone to feel guilty because they don't jump when you text or ask them to do something. it's a good way to make them want to RUN the other way & leave you in the dust wondering What happened????.

I met a guy who was controlling & I read it before I got involved in it.....sadly, his second wife didn't read that in him & after he died in 2004, she was so relieved to be free of him & to be able to be herself. His first wife left him without letting him know what the problem was.....so he never learned even though I tried to graciously try to tell him that it I wasn't the kind of person that was able to plan my life more than 2 weeks in advance & even then I have to be completely flexible.

It's important for you to understand what's causing you to feel either so needy or so controling......but unless you figure out how to control the issue you are dealing with right now....you will end up continually chasing guys away. Sometimes it can be because of separation anxiety because of things you went through as a child.....sometimes it's part of BPD (borderline Personality Disorder)......whatever the cause, it's something you need to deal with for yourself before bringing anyone into your life in a long term relationship. Sadly it's something that causes everyone pain. Something that would be good for you to work on in therapy.