I struggle with when to call my T as well, but I'm learning. I always feel like I might be bugging her, so I don't want to call. Plus, I hate talking on the phone. Several times, I've gone to a session and told her that I'd had a really bad day earlier in the week, and her response is always, "why didn't you call me?" So, using that for a measuring stick, I've now started to call her in similar situations, when I feel like I need a little extra help.

Perhaps at your next session, you could talk to your T about times you've considered calling her and just ask if those would be appropriate times to reach out by phone or not.

In general, I will only call my T if I simply can't cope on my own. Usually that only happens when my anxiety has skyrocketed and I can't bring down the level of anxiety on my own. I called her once because I had to go somewhere, and was so anxious I simply couldn't leave the house...she talked me through it. Otherwise, I tend to email my T. In email, I have said "I'm not sure if I should call or wait 'til the next session or what..." and in those instances, my T will either reply with an email or call me if she thinks it's needed.

I had to laugh at the last conversation I had with my T - it goes to show how much I hate talking on the phone. I had left her a voice mail stating that I needed to reschedule a session, and what times I was available for an appointment, and asked her to call me back. She called me back the next day and our call lasted exactly 23 seconds...long enough for her to say hi, me to say hi and ask her about rescheduling, she offered me a date/time, I said yes, we said bye and that was it! My idea of a perfect phone call!