I have been calling my T a bit more the last few months, where I almost never called the first months I saw her. I thought, if I can survive, I don't need to bother her! However, if self-harm thoughts got really big, if anxiety got really big, I learned that it was OK to call and touch base with her, to get help to be grounded, to get reminders of how I CAN cope well! She is actually pleased I call a little more when I really know I need to.....as opposed to not calling and making a poor choice, coping-wise otherwise!