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I think there is a very good chance that you project something onto Dr. Bob that leads you to be obsessed with him. His lack of interaction and "aloofness" makes him a perfect object for projection.

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I totally agree!

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We tend to do this in order to try to meet a need that's not being met or to play out with someone else an old pattern.

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I didn't know that. I'm confused now because i don't know of any need of mine that is not being met. I also don't play this out with anyone else in my life.

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Could it be that your obsession with Dr. Bob is a safer way to deal with a need or obsession related to someone else in your life? Could Dr. Bob represent a father-figure who, if he only approves of you and likes you, would make everything "all better." This is a common transference/projection.

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I'm not obsessed with anyone else in my life. So I don't know about that. I think it is possible that he represents someone who can make things "all better for me" if only he approves of me. I don't know why this is though. I certainly don't have this kind of feeling towards my Dad. I don't care what my Dad thinks and I don't seek any form of affection from him and I don't give affection either. We are not the most affectionate family. I don't think I've ever hugged anyone in my family. We certainly don't talk about love or anything.

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Could you be primed to or need to see something in Dr. Bob that you put into him versus that he actually is, especially due to his sort of "blank slate" style?

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Yes, I think that is possible, but why I'm not sure at all.