I find myself calling T at least once every week and leaving a message. The normal call is what I label a "post-op call". I usually feel compelled to share some delayed insight from our session within 24 hours or I'll call to tell her that the session made me feel really really good. I believe strongly that we should let our T's know how much they help us.

T and I have an agreement. I do not want her to return my calls (I only leave messages and she's agreed not to pick up the phone) unless I specifically ask her to.

At the extreme, I've left 5 messages in a week. T asked me how it helps me by leaving messages. I told her that being able to share immediately an 'insightful or emotional moment' is very important to me - that the intensity of the feeling will be lost by the time of the next session. I usually don't spend more than 3 or 4 minutes on phone.

T is really good returning my call if I request it and I've only needed her to call me back 4 times in 4 months.

I believe it's essential to call T when you're in crisis. Do not hesitate!!!!!