I don't know about DBT, but I wonder about self-respect when t is challenging in some ways. I feel like therapy might inherently in a way be an antithesis of self respect because you have to let yourself be very vulnerable. Who is to really ever say whether the way the t leads you to change is right or wrong? I am doing it anyway because I feel curious enough about the possibility of being different from the way I am, and I feel hopeful that there are ways that can sometimes feel more meaningful for me and people around me. The question you asked is difficult to answer, i think. Maybe if you want to give more details it could help people give you a more specific answer? Do you want to write about the mixed messages you're getting from your t?