Hey zoo. I hesitate to answer, because I really don't want to influence you at all. In my last T relationship, something was blatantly off, and I spent two years feeling guilt and shame about something that was about him and not me. So I am very glad I finally quit, and am doing a little better with the current T. I wasn't in DBT, and I don't have a lot of "access" to my T however, and I am not sure how DBT works in that aspect...hence my reluctance to comment. I guess what I do want say is you deserve respect, and to feel that you are not always the one in the wrong. I wish you totally the best in all of this.