Thanks you guys. I did talk to him about it. He says he gets it but I know how frustrating it is for him, too. We did the other day and it was a stress reliever. I was able to focus more afterwards but yes, it is about getting in the mood in the first place. If I kind of force it on myself I do enjoy it. Just right now I have no desire to where I'm consciously thinking "man, I want to have sex right now".

Luckily the semester is over in about 3 weeks and we have a conference in Portland which should be fun and hopefully a good break away from all this stuff. Plus I will get a chance to make some contacts for a phd which should take some of that stress off too. I will need to start applying later this year which has also been in the back of my mind. Stupid grad school.......