When I complained to my T that I had become too needy with her, she explained that that is when we have finally realized that we need help. There is nothing wrong with needing help. We get subtle and not so subtle messages in our society these days that we must be independent and not need anybody at anytime.

But, just like when the earth is moving during an earthquake, we reach out to hold onto something sturdy so we don't fall but when the earth stops shaking we no longer need that support.

Likewise, when we're on shaky ground emotionally, it is perfectly natural and necessary that we reach out for support. It is nothing to be ashamed of nor is it something we should avoid. We should hold on as long as needed and then when the support is really not needed anymore, we will automatically let go.

Ask for help when needed. Don't deny yourself.