I've read somewhere(can't remember where, on some therapy site)that "good" therapy is one in which the client doesn't go back
to the past until that client has enough tools to work with, such that they can find ways to cope with the feelings of the past traumas that are coming to the surface.

I think this sounds good to me..... I think this is how the therapy I am doing is going.... for the most part

I don't think it helps at all if one just keeps reliving by recalling and ruminating the traumas over and over......
seems like it's a dog chasing it's tail--
there is no end to it..... just goes around and around....

NOT that you are doing this
.... just that some people, I think, can get in this "circle" of dramatic chaos-- where nothing is ever resolved.

I hope you are learning coping skills and getting communication tools --
they are like the flashlight beam on a dark night path.... they get us going towards the place of inner peace.

peace to you

fins