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Old Apr 25, 2011, 04:52 PM
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(((((((Distressed))))))))

I thought about it some more. I do agree with Onlineuser. And the methods are good FOR WALKING AWAY. BUT, YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE WALKING AWAY FROM. And it is important because you don't want to end up having this happen to you again. And, won't be Distressed all your life.

So, here you go: The sister is the controling force in this senario. The sister needs to have CONTROL. She doesn't care about any of the others in the senario, not even her brother, her main goal is CONTROL. Now you are going to meet others like her and so you better take a good look at her and what she says and does. Whoever ends up with her is going to have a miserable life and she is never going to be happy unless she has control. (That is her weakness) You have to take note of that because you may see it in a potential mate, not good for you at all.

The brother: This is a young man that has had to deal with this controling sibling all his life, but you have to look at him too because who ever ends up with him is going to not only have to deal with his sister, but is going to have to deal with his not being in control of himself and he will be working on that for a long time. Not the man for you dear and so you have to take note of him too.

What he is doing with you is using you as a sort of pawn, testing his sister, remember he is going to be working on this for a long time. He wants control but his sister wont let him have it. You are in the middle of a control issue, and he is huging you because your are a nice person but, he is also testing his sister's control. That is not a good place for you AT ALL.

Now for the others: The others are teasing you too because they too are in control of the sister. They are no better because they are only oppressed by the sister and only act to please her. You have think about them too because you will see this again too. And none of these people are someone you want to spend any time with because all you will learn is how to be controlled.

Now Distressed do you see where you fit into this picture? Do you see all the different players now? This is actually something very good to look at now and get out your notebook because,
this senario holds everything that you do NOT want. None of these people are people that will make you happy or feel important or even feel any sense of security.

Because you are a nice person you don't see this and they all like it because they can use you in their game. This is why you need to learn the techniques that Onlineuser is giving you. It is for your own protection against these kinds of people. And dear, they are everywhere and they will always make you feel DISTRESSED. You have to learn to walk away and they may try to pursue you, because they need you for the game, the control. That is why you use Onlineusers methods. You don't want them pursueing you AT ALL.

You need to make a clean break and NEVER LOOK BACK. BUT REMEMBER WHAT YOU SAW. IT IS IMPORTANT. IT IS WHAT YOU WANT TO AVOID IN THE FUTURE.

Do you see it Distressed?

There is your real answer, take it and move on and remember where not to go again.

There is someone out there for you. But it has to be someone that will complement the nice person that you are, not control the nice person that you are.

Open Eyes

Last edited by Open Eyes; Apr 25, 2011 at 06:01 PM.