Hello, Elana05. Perhaps it is time to look at cognitive distortions and negative chatter again:

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2009/15-...e-distortions/
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2009/fix...e-distortions/
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...nking-hurt-us/
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...essing-you-out
http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/48485

Be well.