I don't think not wanting to go on the conference together means that he's not interested in you! I do think that we want what we can't have though. It would be very different if you were having a girls night in or visiting a sick relative and he wanted to join no? Three months is very soon and but maybe some guys would be comfortable with that-- my last boyfriend asked me to go away with him almost immediately on vacation, like after 2 weeks. But that doesn't mean that there was any more intimacy in the relationship or that he was any more "into" it simply that for him there was no idea that "ooh, you know people shouldn't travel together at the beginning of a relatiosnhip, because they kind of might drive each other crazy!" (That was me, actually, I didn't end up going). I would say go with your gut that wants to be in this relationship right now, though I agree it can be a bit crazy making sometimes. Maybe this guy isn't into doing a lot of stuff together quickly, so perhaps there is someone else out there who moves more at your speed. But I agree with the others, let him go to the conference, as long as he brings back some of the free conference stuff and brownies