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Brighid · Apr 25, 2011, 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by dizgirl2011

Thanks for clearing that up for me as I didnt want to reply in the wrong way

. I think it's understandable to be anxious as it can feel vulnerable to tell someone how you feel about them and wait for their response but considering your T cried at the thought of loosing you as a client I think shows that he really does care about you and in many ways it's likely he knows a lot of how you feel for him, as Transference and attachment often happen in the theraputic relationship.

May I ask, what you would like to get out of telling your therapist about your feelings?

No problem. Waiting for a response is what is so hard. Its to the point in therapy where I can tell him anything,, but ths is like WAY past anything LOL in terms of normal talking. lol. You think he knows just from crying?

Well, I think what I want to get out of this MOST is.... finding out WHY it is so easy to feel trust, attachment, caring, and compassion for him, when it is SO incredibly hard for me to feel that for any man....because of the past. It would be nice to be able when I meet someone, to just be able to be as comfortable with them as I am with him. I can't be myself around people who I think are judgeing me..... which is practically a lot of people, and I dunno really... maybe that is why I want to tell him and clear the air because I need to have it discussed in the open to figure it all out.