It turns out that he is staying with some friends while at the conference, but I wished he would have said something like "and that is why I did not invite you" etc. I have lots of friends outside of the relationship and tons of hobbies in addition to working full time so when I am not with him I have plenty to keep myself occupied. I think my real problem is that according to my therapist this is probably the first healthy relationship I have ever had adn I have been dating for nearly 20 years. My last boyfriend decided he wanted to be a couple on our third date and we spent most of our time together and he even drove 800 miles of out his way to see me when I was away for work-and we had only been dating 2 months. My two long term relationships were dysfunctional-the first guy and I started spending the night together on our first date and did not sleep apart for almost a year. The relationship after that we fell in love immediately (but had dated in the past) declared we were each others soul mates, he took me to NYC for my birthday after two months of dating, got engaged after three, he pushed me to move in after 5 months s only to have the relationship start to crumble after we moved in together and by the end of our three year relationship I was such a mess that I did not date for a year (by choice) and I still hate him to this day! So you can see that a normal relationship is very new and weird to me and I have no idea how to act or what to expect. I am going to continue to let him contact me half the time but I am also going to try my best not to expect much aside from seeing him 2 times a week (we live 5 minutes away from each other, am I wrong to think that we should see each other more than twice a week? I dont want to see him every day but I think three times is a good amount? I have been having a hard time with female problems and think it makes the bi-polar and insecurity much worse than normal and the hormonal stuff is just too much at times.

Thanks again for all the advice, figuring out how to have a healthy relationship for the first time is very hard and I really need all the help I can get.