It could be a lot of different things, HelgaDE. Maybe your father doesn't know how to face up to this kind of thing. Maybe he's dealing with his own stuff after the death of your mother. It's hard to really understand where another person is coming from. You said that your Dad doesn't understand the way you feel...and it sounds like maybe you're in the same boat. You don't really understand where he's coming from either. We'd all like our families to provide us with support, and it's tough when they won't or can't -- try to keep in mind that his lack of understanding and support is a result of his issues, not yours.