I agree with Perna, for the most part and I think that is an excellent way to think about it.

However, it seems like there are two conflicting messages coming through in your post, Lastyearisblank. On the one hand, you talk about the intense unresolved feelings, and on the other hand you casually refer to it as just a 'mystery to be solved' rather than a situation that is very personal, and potentially painful, to you.

I kind of lean toward believing it is intensly unresolved and potentially painful. And with the way you describe this T's actions before, when you were actually his client, I would be really concerned about you going back into that situation and that it may cause more damage and hurt.

Not sure if that makes sense.