Azalysa,
Perfectly put, that is all so true what you have just said.
I have always told those newly grieving, that the so called steps of it do not necessarily have to fall in the same order as another person. You are probably familar with the various books about grieving, and the steps some authors write about. My feeling is that there are no time limits, nor should someone feel pressured of when the grieving process should be over. It is individual, and I wish society would allow time for those that grieve.
My mother-in-law who has lost her husband,son and sisters and brothers, hurt me when I was still feeling weepy at time I had just lost my dad,it was a month after his death and Christmas time, 2002. This is just like her approach to depression and mental disorders, she ignorantly told me to "snap out of it, and get over it", so cruel when others think that is "the way", grrrrrrrrrr!
Sorry, for digressing, one of my major flaws.
Dolfin, I hope you never feel pressured by those around you,when or when not to grieve, it is a healing sort of process though in the begining it is really difficult.
Please know, you always have people here for you.
Take care now,
Rosanne

((((((((( Dolfin )))))))))