on a superficial level I can't help thinking it is.

The g/f is saying that she has these rage and anger attacks because the kids don't show their dad enough respect. She said she knows she has to learn to deal with that on her own and is looking forward to therapy.

So, why wasn't it OK with the ex for me to go to counseling when I was struggling, but it's OK for the g/f to go now? Maybe because he was afraid I only wanted to go to counseling to get strong enough to leave him or something. I don't know.

I know it doesn't say anything about me. It says something about him. But I can't help feeling that if I was somehow "better" in some way, counseling for me would have been OK in his mind.