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Originally Posted by peaches100
This feeling of worthlessness does come from inside me. I do see how that is true. But it feels like people (including t) do things that validate my sense of worthlessness, such as spacing me out or ignoring me; in effect, showing that i AM the way i feel inside.
People really have treated me as unimportant in life -- not just my parents.
How do you have stuff like that happen to you all the time and NOT feel worthless? How do you stop anticipating it and seeing it from every little thing that remotely looks that way since it has happened to you so much?
But it's hard to still feel good about her caring one day when she forgets about me the next. I know my problems are from childhood, being rejected. But it feels like it is still happening today.
It feels like external things that people do keeps reinforcing the bad internal feelings i have about myself. It seems that if i am not worthless, then people would stop treating me as such.
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Everything that you have described up there ^ is triggering. You have a wound inside and it gets triggered by people on the outside. It is like if I have a sore arm and people keep bumping into it.
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Originally Posted by peaches100
But i want her to care deeply for me also.
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Is this realistic?
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