Thanks MissBelle and Roman Sunburn, I appreciate the advice. Roman Sunburn, your comments are very helpful. I`ve been extremely specific with my bf about everything I want out of him for the entire relationship. I don`t know how his mind and reasoning and logic skills work but from what I can gather he is only able to do very little of what I need. Out first hurdle as a couple was that I wanted him to be emotionally stable. That took him 4 years to accomplish, that was before he was diagnosed and treatments for Schizophenia and that 4 years I didnt know what was the matter with him but i urged him to get help, to no avail. So after treatment he was brought to a very high level of stability in which time he started rebuilding his life. that last 3 three years so we are coming up on our eighth year. last may i noticed he got paranoid and delusional about me going to some school functions and he`s not really been been the same since. becoming distant is the issue and hes never been a distant guy prior to a year hes had severe emotional issues but never distant. hes always been very involved in my life and we were inseparable. the problems started first when he didnt send an ecard on my bday not calling on christmas then he forgot our anniversary which was valentines week. the thing that bugs me is he now just either calls or ecard but not both hes became a slacker in our relationship there no consistancy now. he doesnt seem to understand that. he screwing up at work now and takes it really hard but he screwing up little things he doesnt pay attention to detail he just does a medeocre job in his endeavors. t he doesnt know how to properly balance his activities he goes really hard core on one area such as our relationship but now his involvement is falling apart because he cant balance properly and i am really mad at him and ive told him what the problem is trying not to be mean about it and he says he will do better but he doesnt. i dont know if i should just accept that he has major limitations or leave things would be ok between us if i didnt expect anything from he and didnt need to trust him. consistancy and reliability is the major rift that has caucesed problems in this last year