P.s. to clearify he`s always made it a point to be in contact with me all the time like to the point where he was obsessed! i hated it at first in the early years of our relationship but i slowly adapted figuring he needed the extra support that has gone on for the 7 or the almost 8 years we`ve been together and this past year that need for him to be in constant contact and always be with me has suddenly seems to vanish. you`d think that id be happy to get my space to breath back but its the opposite. being in a smothered, unhealthy relationship has forced me to conform to his ill way of thinking but finally getting space has caused me to spiral into depression, constant anxiety and stress. boy am f-ed up and was f-ed with my own issues before I even met him! I guess that when i started out with him i wanted to fix him once i started to see he wasnt like everyone else, he had no job, no money, no social life and college education. I was in community college at the time and had high hopes for myself but struggled with self esteem and confidence issues now im finishing up university and i still have the issues because i never got to take care of my own needs first I was forced by my my bf`s guilt tripping to attend to his needs. Im slowly coming to grips with the reality that he may never be able to meet my needs really I dont think he has the ability to. i hate that is has taken me darn near 8 years to realize that the best that he can do is probably only at the level of a child yet he is a 32 year old man! his emotional intelligence seems to be at maybe a 15 years old`s level Im just being real not trying to be mean. I also wonder if he might have some autisic issues. sorry for the grammar I`m using my cell phone.