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Originally Posted by Elana05
Do you think if you were always told you did something not-quite-right by a parent it is more likely to stick with you, even when you feel like you should have outgrown it? I'm in my 30s now. Other people seem able to brush it off when a parent chides them or questions their decisions. I have the hardest time with letting it go. Whenever I make a decision I hear my dad's voice - wondering why I did what I did and emphasizing that it was the wrong move.  |
This was my childhood experience, someone always undermining my judgement. My mother is NPD/HPD. She was extremely critical and perfectionistic. Failure was such a devastating experience as a child and any child of an NPD will know that no matter the outcome, you always fail in their eyes. As an adult, I second-guess every decision I make or feel so conflicted that I choose not to decide anything. It's really effected my sense of self and hampered my career/educational goals.