stinks to hurt from such a thing. sorry to hear LMo.

support for spouses/partners of depressed/bipol ppl is essential in our book and we commend you for seeking that support and glad you've found help from participation there.

our line of questioning begins with what did you derive from this relationship? how was this friendship beneficial to you?

she needed you....based on what you've written....and was very, very fortunate to have someone like you who gave so much tangibly and emotionally...........but...did you need her? did she fufill a role in your life that kept you busy/feeling needed?

these aren't asked to be unkind but rather to ponder what kind of friendship was this when it seems like you gave and gave (of your own choice) and received little in return. if there is more that isn't written here then our apologies for assumption.....

if not then perhaps looking into your friendships online and IRL and how much you RECEIVE from those friendships.......if the balance is way off then maybe reassessing things is in order. it is rare for things to be fifty fifty but when the see-saw is constantly on one end something ain't right.

again, very sorry for that painful feeling of feeling used. we hope you keep your huge heart and perhaps recheck some boundaries if needed.

offered kindly,