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Originally Posted by zooropa
called her and left a message. I fail at life. 
some of the things she said that are going around in my head: that she has never encountered this before in her career. That it's not me calling for coaching that's a problem, it's me calling to check if she's still there, or me asking if it's ok to call her. My need for reassurance is "draining" and "damaging the relationship". That she was working hard on not being sarcastic. She didn't realize it before because once I leave her office someone else comes in and she's focused on them and then when she goes home she's focused on home. It's ok for me to have needs but I have to know that people aren't obligated to meet those needs.
I'm angry/sad/angry/sad/angry/sad right now. |
Hey hun
you
did not fail just because you tried to help sooth your inner turmoil by calling her...I think most of us on here can fully understand how it feels to have something go wrong with our therapists and to just want to put it right as soon as we can; even though leaving time between our next interaction with them may be the best choice, it feels impossible to wait and cope with feeling so bad until that next contact.
The things she said sound like they would be very painful to hear, I can fully understand you feeling both angry and sad at the points you highlighted.
What is coaching exactly? I thought it was just when you rang your T because you where having a hard time and needed some help and advice? Therefore I would have thought the fact that you have an issue with needing reassurance would still be a valid reason to call.
I think we all know that no one has to meet our needs but I think the way she spoke seems quite unprofessional for a therapist. To really make a client feel bad for their needs and to actually be sarcastic towards them is not right at all. The T is supposed to be the level headed person who can remain objective and try to do what is best for us. I would have thought that she would have been trying to find a way to help you with these issues, not start having a go at you for them
(((huge hugs)))