Think this might tie in a bit with what I said in another post....it sounds like your relationship that you feel with her is expecting her to act like a FRIEND with you rather than your T. Not saying that T's aren't supposed to be nice....but you hired her to make a BREAK THROUGH & FIX the things that are causing your life problems....not reinforce them.

It's not an easy break through for any of us.....changing what hasn't been working in our life is the hardest & most painful thing we can ever do. Sometimes even with our own children, when we are really kind & easy then in our training....sometimes "tough love" (telling it like it is) is sometimes the only solution that works. "Telling it like it is" hurts & requires change that isn't comfortable.....no change is comfortable or easy.....but if you give up now & don't continue....you will loose the guidance your T really knows that you need to heal & to become truly functional....part of being functional is NOT being controlled by your abandonment issues & not controlling others by them either.

Remember, change always seems to hurt....but not changing will end up hurting you worse in the long run.

Think of this as just being another step in your healing.....& sometimes healing means breaking up scar tissue in the physical sense which hurts like H@!!.....just as it does in the psychological part of our life.