Are you saying that Ts need to walk on eggshells? I disagree. You are affected based on how you think about her words and actions. I honestly would not have been hurt by your t's actions and would not have interpreted her actions as meaning I wasn't important. I would have simply thought she forgot and I would not take that a step further to mean that I am unimportant or unlovable. my T is actually quite forgetful, so i wouldn't be surprised at all if she forgot. And I know she cares deeply about me.

Peaches, you have been seeing your T for a very long time and still question whether you are cared for? What about all the things she says and does that prove otherwise? If you realize that this is a pattern from your childhood, why not work on changing how you think about it instead of trying to change others and expect them to walk on eggshells?