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Originally Posted by karebear1
Zoo- can I ask how this session started? Was she snarky right off the bat? She called you and asked you to come in. Why did she want you to come if she was just gonna dump on you?
And.... short of crying- did you say anything to her?
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I'm sorry, I wasn't very clear. Too much posting in the middle of emotional tornadoes. This was my scheduled session, I had called to cancel and she was asking me to keep the appt. So it wasn't a special extra session or anything.
A lot of what she said, especially in the beginning and also at the end of the session, speaks to what Byzantine mentions. She said that things had been done by both of us that damaged the relationship. She said that she believes it is possible to repair, although honestly I wonder if she still felt that way after our 50 mins was up.
I did say things to her, although as I mentioned she interrupted me several times. I told her that I believed therapy was the one place where it was ok for me to be needy. I told her that i know she is human but I am also aware that the therapeutic relationship is unique in that it is so one-sided. I reminded her that I don't know how she interacts with her other clients or how often anyone is calling her or what she says to them and if it's the same things she says to me.
I also told her that I was hurt, and sad, and disappointed, and angry. I told her I don't know if I will come back next week, that I have so many other things (big things!) going on in my life and that I don't know if I have room to spend time and energy going to therapy if it isn't helping anymore.
there is more, but I'm sleepy and sad and I need to just float away for a while.
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