I don't think asking about love is a loaded question at all. I think it's courageous. I ask it myself of T often because it's important to explore the answer. Genuine love isn't something to apologize for.

But Rainbow, she also has the right to choose when and how she responds. She is doing whats best for you. Hoping that she responds to acknowledge your insight is very normal. Accepting that she didn't and celebrating that you feel that way is true growth.