Ladyjrnlist,

I do have a habit of reading into things, very badly! My dad did it all the time to me growing up, and i think i must have picked up the same tendency. What makes it difficult is that, at the time, i don't realize i'm reading into something. I start with a piece of true information, but then the explanation I come up with about that piece of information is false. It seems like it makes perfect sense at the time, but later -- usually after talking to my t about it -- I realize that I've come to wrong conclusions!! The bad thing about it is that by then, i've spent alot of time stewing on it and trying to figure things out -- and usually feeling awful because I've interpreted it in a way that makes me feel unworthy or bad.

Yes, i realized after i thought about it for awhile that the holiday text thing was a boundary, and I should have been OK with that. I get into a mindset sometimes of expecting too much, and then later feeling bad when i realize I've done that.