All relationships have their ups & downs & issues that need to be worked through.....Our relationships with T's are in that way no different than any other relationship whether just friendship, or a closer relationship where we have an emotional involvement rather than JUST an acquaintance.

It's the working through & resolving the problems & learning better how to relate to others on both sides of the relationship that is the growing process of life. I have found that when both sides are willing to grow from an issue that comes up that it can be resolved & worked through.

Was in a marriage where my husband didn't want to grow or make the changes necessary for a successful marriage (or just a reasonable relationship) & because I had tolerated it for so many years, he just expected me to continue tolerating it & didn't want to put any effort into making the change that would make the marriage really work......SO I LEFT......but I wouldn't have if he had shown any desire to grow as a person....but because he was never FORCED to make changes, he refused.