darkrunner, you're right again. My needs can't be met through email!!!

farmergirl, you're right too. It is just hard to accept her boundary about emails because I have the need to express myself, to be heard, AND to be responded to. It's hard for me to sit with strong feelings.

Sannah, I suffered from selective mutism so I didn't have a way to get my needs met when I didn't talk. They used to say SM was manipulative, but it's now accepted as social anxiety, so I don't know. I couldn't help not talking but I can see where the pattern of not asking fits in, or wanting too much but not being able to ask, so silence was manipulative? I'm not sure about what I just wrote. It doesn't make sense to me.