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Old Apr 28, 2011, 01:44 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
darkrunner, you're right again. My needs can't be met through email!!!

farmergirl, you're right too. It is just hard to accept her boundary about emails because I have the need to express myself, to be heard, AND to be responded to. It's hard for me to sit with strong feelings.

Sannah, I suffered from selective mutism so I didn't have a way to get my needs met when I didn't talk. They used to say SM was manipulative, but it's now accepted as social anxiety, so I don't know. I couldn't help not talking but I can see where the pattern of not asking fits in, or wanting too much but not being able to ask, so silence was manipulative? I'm not sure about what I just wrote. It doesn't make sense to me.
wow rain does this bring back memories even T would tell me i was manipulating because i wouldn't talk and the horrible things that this one T had my parents do...this T i have would never say that at least i don't think she would she never has she has for the most part accepted my silence for what it is and doesn't do a lot to encourage it but doesn't belittle me for it either.wow those memories
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