yes, this all by itself is so huge, I can understand why it is hard to deal with other stressors as they come up, which is inevitable......it would be nice to feel more supported and cared for in your T relationship, wouldn't it? I want for you to have that.....
And yet, as I learned with my rupture with T recently, which was nearly more than I could handle by itself never mind having 4 kids plus other things......somehow I have to dig and dig deep to find that there are more resources within, learn to rely more on the healthy coping skills I do have, rely on the healthy support system I do have, and understand that sometimes life is like that - a relationship is difficult and painful and yet there are other things that have to be dealt with in the midst of heartbreak because life keeps happening!
I hope you can dig deep and find more strength to keep going on, moment by moment, day by day, that you can rely more on your healthy coping skills and support system, and that the relationship with T is reparable and can become more supportive....
Many big hugs to you!