Hi all,

This is my first time posting in this section ever. And I feel guilty for it because I'm not even sure if it could be classified as "abuse". All I know is, my sister treated my family like garbage. And this one event that happened has been really bothering me lately.

Ever since she started puberty, about 11, my sister got to be quite nasty to all of us. She'd pick fights with my brother and I, especially my brother, and she also started rebelling against my dad. Seeing guys, multiple sexual partners, drugs, booze, you name it. She'd totally disregard any of my dad's rules and just do what she felt like.

But the thing that's come back to bother me the most happened when I was 13, my brother was 11, and my sister was 16. She falsely accused my father of sexual assault. My brother and I were taken away from my dad for a few months while they looked into the charges. My sister was already living with somebody else. Everyone in the family knew my sister was lying, (she's a chronic liar) my dad would never do something like this, so we were just waiting for her to admit she was lying. But she didn't. The charges were just dropped because there was no proof.

Of course, my dad's reputation was ruined. We live in a small town, so everybody found out quickly. Everybody in town would give him dirty looks when he went to the mail, shopping, etc. It was awful. Months later, my sister FINALLY admitted she was lying. My dad forgave her eventually.

BUT...a few years later, she told her boyfriend, the SAME damn thing! And my sister had had a child by this time, the boyfriend told children's AID about it and my dad was forbidden to see his grandchild.

My father has decided not to have contact with her, and I respect that. My brother still has contact with her, I talk to her sometimes...but it's been a while. I just can't believe she'd create such awful lies, merely out of anger and wanting to get attention! I just want to grab her, shake her by the shoulders and ask her why she'd do this to her own father, and family?

What she did...was it abuse? Or was it just some cruel act for attention? I don't know what to call it. And I don't know if I can forgive her.