thinking of you rainbow! many hugs....

As far as the post above about manipulation, dizgirl I think....yes, I think unintentional manipulation is a good term. My T called it self-protective mechanisms for me, that growing up I used to ensure I found a way to get what I needed (what I really did need!) when there was no other way to get it or to keep myself safe and I still have some, many, of those mechanisms now.......not intending to be manipulative, but being thus anyway. And manipulation needn't always be a BAD thing.....we all do it in some way or other to influence a situation and it can be used in a good sense to influence a situation/person in a good way (maybe like getting your child to do something you want him to do because it's the right thing for him whether he wants to do it or not!)