Wow, me too, I am very sensitive to tone and anger displayed by others.

I do know that it has to do with my past and it also has to do with how I know that voice raising is when people are being agressive and not assertive.

This is one of my triggers and at least I know that now and I am working on it. My husband has a tendency to get very loud and push his point and it really annoys me to the core. But with him, I am working on it, redirecting him, but, it is a project. At least I stop him, make him think, and he is more aware now and trying.

One of the grounding methods I use is just to think that those who do it are nothing more than a child throwing a temper tantrum, someone elses child and not my job to discipline it. And when it is directed at me, I immediately devalue it to the person and walk away. I call it for what it is and give the impression that when the other person ends the loud behavior and wants me to listen than that is the only way there will be a conversation.

It takes work, time, and you do have to reason it and ground it out.
It is like an electrical outlet, there has to be a ground or someone gets hurt. That is when you have to put your brain in gear to, ground it down
conciously.

Open Eyes