It is very dificult to accept that a T is just that--and they are not actually "real" as in they cannot be what others are in our lives. It feels good because they have that unconditional acceptance that they must have to do their jobs. Sure, they care about us, but it has to be within very strict boundaries. Leading you to believe they can be something more to you would be wrong and untrue. Your T might care and might like you very much; however, she cannot become a real friend or a real mother or a real anything. It is sad when we like them so much. It is best to find the real friends in the world who can really respond. When there are needs inside of us and it seems easy to be close to a T we do not really have to try in the world then do we? We think we have what we need in those sessions. It is a type of fantasy. It is not a reality. They cannot possibly give us what we really need.