Thanks Sleeps - I am not sure what I want to do. I'm not irreparably upset with her or anything like that, but I'm rethinking how much excess drama I feel like dealing with in my life.

But this does bring me back to something I'm working on in therapy - doing things for other people. As _zh hinted, it's something that comes up pretty regularly with me. My T's goal for me is to focus more on helping organizations/nonprofits and less on individual people. I agree with the theory but it's not like I want to cut friends loose when they're having tough times, and face it -- most of my friends in the other support forum are having tough times or else they wouldn't be there.

Thinking... no longer upset, but I'm spending time considering the lessons I can learn from this experience.